Tuesday, 23 June 2015

LIFESTYLE | Why Do We Worry?

Why Do We Worry? Health Lifestyle Chatty Post
I really really really struggled choosing an image for this post, so you are going to have to have the closed eye smiley from yours truly I'm afraid! 

Hello lovelies!

Today's post is one of those kind of rambly ones, focusing on a question that I ask myself a lot, it is constantly on my mind... Why do we worry? (Shall we see how many times I say the word worry in this post, I have a feeling it will be a lot...) 

Now, I know it is in fact an extremely normal human mind process, but where does it cross the line? Everybody worries, they are lying if they say otherwise. But why do some people worry more than others? 


Why do I worry about absolutely everything in life, yet so many other people appear so so care free.

People that don't have the 'worrysome' problem, also described as anxiety, just don't quite understand. They may just tell you *to stop worrying* but that just doesn't really work does it? It is like telling someone to not think of a cute kitten, and then the mind will instantly think of a cute kitten. (awwwwh kittens) How often do people question 'why' you are worrying? Probably not all that often, because that can be seen as an effort, they could be getting themselves into a really long ramble that they perhaps don't really want to listen to, they may have their own life problems. 

I know that if someone asks why I am worrying I could quite literally talk for days. But what people may not understand is that just talking REALLY REALLY helps. So you hold on really tight to those people that question why.

What Do I Worry About? 


Pretty much everything. Not quite. But seriously a lot of things......
- Money
- Fire
- Burglars
- General Crime 
- Pregnancy 
- Under Performing In Employment
- Failure
- Teeth
- Losing My Senses
- Friendships and Relationships
- Disease and Dying
- The Unknown 

A pretty standard list that I am sure a lot of people worry about, but the CONSTANT worrying is just so so so so so so draining and exhausting and it is just so.... 

UNPRODUCTIVE 

There is nothing productive about worrying. It pretty much sucks away all of your time. Quite a lot of the time I like to have a nap (three hour sleep) whenever I am feeling particularly anxious, and that takes up a lot of time. As much as I say that 'worrying is a waste of time' I still JUST CAN'T stop, even if it is what I want the most in life right now. 

I question my life choices far too much... WHAT IF I do this, and then this happens. The responsibility I feel for my actions and anything that happens to me is just ridiculous. And notice how the majority of my worries are in the future / also may not even happen. So why? 

I want to live in the present, and enjoy the life I am CURRENTLY living, no worrying about what the future holds, because what happens is just what happens. To enjoy those beautiful things in life.... Feel the wind through my hair, listen to the birds, inhale the crisp air and freshly cut grass. Feel the sun on my skin (when it is ever out, Leeds sort it out) tickle my tastebuds with all things delicious, sightsee all the beauty that is out there, capture it, live it. 

I most definitely want to live a very fulfilling life and endless worrying about it now, will not do anything good, nor productive. As usual I want to end with my favourite quote "Don't worry about the things that MIGHT happen, concentrate on the things that ARE happening"

Hope you enjoyed my little ramble lovelies, I will be dead impressed if any of you made it to the end! Can you relate to anything in this post? You might also like my 10 Things To Do When Feeling Anxious Post. 

Catch you soon - Lots of Love,

Kayleigh xoxo
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12 comments

  1. i am very similar to you Kayleigh and know exactly where you are coming from! In person,it may not seem that way as someone once said to me "i wish i was like you with not a care in the world". This comment has haunted me for years as i am the total opposite! Anyway, loved your post xx

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  2. I'm very high stress and I worry about everything. One of my goals recently has been to stop stressing out so much!
    Classy Country Girl

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  3. Loved this post Kayleigh. I am always worrying about something every day! I sometimes even panic when i think I haven't worried about something in a few hours lol it sounds ridiculous to others but I feel like there is always something to worry about - hopefully I can get myself out of the worry cycle!!! x

    gillmclaughlin.com

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  4. Loved this post Kayleigh - you've completely summed up how I feel half of the time! When you sit and think about the time thats been wasted worrying, it sounds ridiculous, but at the time there is just nothing you can do to stop! What I'd give for a worry-free mind! :(

    Beth x
    Bethany Georgina

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  5. Your not alone lovely. I’m such a worry wart, travelling is my major worry. I love the destination, but getting there leaves me unnecessarily anxious. I think I mentioned that to you on Twitter? I travelled into London at the weekend, which for me takes just 30 minutes and is something I do on a regular basis and I still get anxious and have no way of explaining why! Some of the points you’ve touched upon are things so many suffer from, failure is one that I know is a worry for many. I often feel people can be overly competitive in the fear of failure, which can lead to stress and all sorts!

    www.britishbeautyaddict.com

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  6. I completely understand this. I focus waaay too much on the future, trying to make that perfect and forgetting about the now

    x
    www.siobhanlrothwell.wordpress.com

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  7. I'm a worrier too - I have to plan everything in advance and then go over and over it all in my head, trying to think of all the possible scenarios and what I'm going to do. I can really make a mountain out of a molehill in my head! What I love recently is that I've been a bit more spontaneous recently, with places I'm going and the things I'm doing. I don't have the time to overthink it so much which feels so freeing. I think I'll always be a worrier though, my motto is always Prepare for the worst, hope for the best! xx

    Laura | Loved By Laura

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  8. This is an excellent post. Pretty much everything on your list (with the exception of teeth, although now you mention it I hate dentists and the thought of having to get any removed makes me anxious so yes, probably also teeth) are the things I worry about too. I can be out having a great time with friends or my boyfriend, then I get a thought and have to ask him, will you be dead? It's so frustrating and I know it ruins the experience just a little bit, but I can't help it/ I get so scared.

    Thank you for this post xx

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  9. I totally agree with you on this one. Worrying IS unproductive..yet for some reason, against our own will, we'll find ourselves worrying about things! I tend to think I'm one of those who doesn't worry much. But, recently I've learnt that in actual fact, I just push all the little worries aside until eventually I worry about everything at once. I think it's important to take a step back and think about all the good things (no matter how small) and appreciate what you have. I love that quote at the end as well.
    Thanks for posting lovely,
    xxx
    Tasmin | Grandiose Days

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  10. I'm definitely one of those people who worries about the future/unknown rather than concentrating on what's happening in the present! (bloomin' worry about the past too!) It's hard and it's draining like you said - but I'm trying to do the same as you are, and just live and experience every thing in the moment!

    Harder said than done, but it does make you feel better! :) that quote at the end is exactly right!

    Hazel xx

    hazeljane.co.uk

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  11. I know that worry feeling too well, and sometimes I have to remind myself that it will change nothing. Although I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one that over thinks. KBxx

    http://beautybykaris.com

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  12. I love this post kayleigh, I am a definite worrier too and it was just nice to read something that I could relate to. Also, teeth, me too! I've not met many people who worry about this. I get the nightmares that they are falling out all the time and then I hate biting into cold, solid things!

    Sarah www.whatsasssays.com

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